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diff --git a/notes/index.html b/notes/index.html index 407c2b48..fb3ebf17 100644 --- a/notes/index.html +++ b/notes/index.html @@ -8,15 +8,19 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1>Notes on foo.zone</h1> -<h2>To be in the .zone!</h2> -<a class="textlink" href="./the-stoic-challenge.html">'The Stoic Challenge' book notes</a><br /> -<a class="textlink" href="./the-pragmatic-programmer.html">'The Pragmatic Programmer' book notes</a><br /> -<a class="textlink" href="./soft-skills.html">'Software Developmers Career Guide & Soft Skills' book notes</a><br /> -<a class="textlink" href="./never-split-the-difference.html">'Never split the difference' book notes</a><br /> -<a class="textlink" href="./mental-combat.html">'Mental Combat' book notes</a><br /> -<p>That were all notes. Hope they were useful!</p> -<a class="textlink" href="../">Go back to main site</a><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline'>Notes on foo.zone</h1><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>To be in the .zone!</h2><br /> +<br /> +<a class=textlink href='./the-stoic-challenge.html'>'The Stoic Challenge' book notes</a><br /> +<a class=textlink href='./the-pragmatic-programmer.html'>'The Pragmatic Programmer' book notes</a><br /> +<a class=textlink href='./soft-skills.html'>'Software Developmers Career Guide & Soft Skills' book notes</a><br /> +<a class=textlink href='./never-split-the-difference.html'>'Never split the difference' book notes</a><br /> +<a class=textlink href='./mental-combat.html'>'Mental Combat' book notes</a><br /> +<br /> +<span>That were all notes. Hope they were useful!</span><br /> +<br /> +<a class=textlink href='../'>Go back to main site</a><br /> <p class="footer"> Generated with <a href="https://codeberg.org/snonux/gemtexter">Gemtexter</a> | served by <a href="https://www.OpenBSD.org">OpenBSD</a>/<a href="https://man.openbsd.org/httpd.8">httpd(8)</a> | diff --git a/notes/mental-combat.html b/notes/mental-combat.html index 9c00dae3..c991e7c7 100644 --- a/notes/mental-combat.html +++ b/notes/mental-combat.html @@ -8,10 +8,14 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1>"Mental Combat" book notes</h1> -<p class="quote"><i>Last updated 29.5.2022</i></p> -<h2>Mindfulness</h2> -<p>We overthink everything. Apply mindfulness. Take a step back and recognize the conflict. Then analyse and react. Mindfulness is experiencing the moment without judgement. Mindfulness can combat all kind of mental issues such as stress for example. Don't think about the future and the past. Be in the now. </p> +<h1 style='display: inline'>"Mental Combat" book notes</h1><br /> +<br /> +<span class=quote>Last updated 29.5.2022</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Mindfulness</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>We overthink everything. Apply mindfulness. Take a step back and recognize the conflict. Then analyse and react. Mindfulness is experiencing the moment without judgement. Mindfulness can combat all kind of mental issues such as stress for example. Don't think about the future and the past. Be in the now. </span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Physical training only does not train your mental performance.</li> <li>Visualization of success makes you practise hard.</li> @@ -20,20 +24,26 @@ <li>Once cool and calm Analyse and react.</li> <li>Life will not slow down for you. You need to make your own priorities.</li> <li>There is a difference between sport and exercise psychology. One is for competition, the other for exercise.</li> -</ul> -<h2>Motivation</h2> -<p>Your mind sets limits not to self destruct your body. But there is always a buffer for emergency situations. It is possible to overcome the limits set by your mind. Motivation is everything. Without, you won't do things and will only dream. Or you will give up. Don't be externally motivated but by personal drive. Real training is though. The only way to succeed is motivation. Enjoy the process despite the pain and sweat. In order for this be internal motivated.</p> -<p>If you are not motivated, reevaluate your goals. Is this the right sport for you? Find the inner fire.</p> -<h2>Self esteem</h2> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Motivation</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Your mind sets limits not to self destruct your body. But there is always a buffer for emergency situations. It is possible to overcome the limits set by your mind. Motivation is everything. Without, you won't do things and will only dream. Or you will give up. Don't be externally motivated but by personal drive. Real training is though. The only way to succeed is motivation. Enjoy the process despite the pain and sweat. In order for this be internal motivated.</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>If you are not motivated, reevaluate your goals. Is this the right sport for you? Find the inner fire.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Self esteem</h2><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Competitive anxiety can interfere with your performance Don't worry at the outcome but focus on the now, e.g. the correct move.</li> <li>You won't perform well without self esteem. Instead of beating up yourself, have an objective look at what went wrong and strategize.</li> <li>Identify why you were nervous and use it as excitement next time and remember to breathe.</li> <li>Choose a key word as a trigger to breath and think positively.</li> -</ul> -<p>One way not to lose is not to see a loss as a loss. Think of each defeat as a test. And go back to the drawing board. Don't take a loss emotionally. It's a super power. This is the key. To self improvement. There are no failures but tests.</p> -<p>E-Mail your comments to hi@paul.cyou :-)</p> -<a class="textlink" href="../">Back to the main site</a><br /> +</ul><br /> +<span>One way not to lose is not to see a loss as a loss. Think of each defeat as a test. And go back to the drawing board. Don't take a loss emotionally. It's a super power. This is the key. To self improvement. There are no failures but tests.</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>E-Mail your comments to hi@paul.cyou :-)</span><br /> +<br /> +<a class=textlink href='../'>Back to the main site</a><br /> <p class="footer"> Generated with <a href="https://codeberg.org/snonux/gemtexter">Gemtexter</a> | served by <a href="https://www.OpenBSD.org">OpenBSD</a>/<a href="https://man.openbsd.org/httpd.8">httpd(8)</a> | diff --git a/notes/never-split-the-difference.html b/notes/never-split-the-difference.html index 754f68a7..970107cd 100644 --- a/notes/never-split-the-difference.html +++ b/notes/never-split-the-difference.html @@ -8,9 +8,12 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1>"Never split the difference" book notes</h1> -<p class="quote"><i>Published at 2023-04-01T20:00:17+03:00</i></p> -<p>These are my personal takeaways after reading "Never split the difference" by Chris Voss. Note that the book contains much more knowledge wisdom and that these notes only contain points I personally found worth writing down. This is mainly for my own use, but you might find it helpful too.</p> +<h1 style='display: inline'>"Never split the difference" book notes</h1><br /> +<br /> +<span class=quote>Published at 2023-04-01T20:00:17+03:00</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>These are my personal takeaways after reading "Never split the difference" by Chris Voss. Note that the book contains much more knowledge wisdom and that these notes only contain points I personally found worth writing down. This is mainly for my own use, but you might find it helpful too.</span><br /> +<br /> <pre> ,.......... .........., ,..,' '.' ',.., @@ -22,77 +25,106 @@ '''''''''''''''''';''';'''''''''''''''''' ''' </pre> -<h2>Tactical listening, spreading empathy</h2> -<p>Be a mirror, copy each other to be comfy with each other to build up trust. Mirroring is mainly body language. A mirror is to repeat the words the other just said. Simple but effective.</p> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Tactical listening, spreading empathy</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Be a mirror, copy each other to be comfy with each other to build up trust. Mirroring is mainly body language. A mirror is to repeat the words the other just said. Simple but effective.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>A mirror needs space and silence between the words. At least 4 seconds.</li> <li>A mirror might be awkward to be used at first, especially with a question coupled to it.</li> <li>We fear what's different and are drawn to what is similar.</li> -</ul> -<p>Mirror training is like Jedi training. Simple but effective. A mirror needs space. Be silent after "you want this?" </p> -<h2>Mindset of discovery</h2> -<p>Try to have multiple realities in your mind and use facts to distinguish between real and false.</p> +</ul><br /> +<span>Mirror training is like Jedi training. Simple but effective. A mirror needs space. Be silent after "you want this?" </span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Mindset of discovery</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Try to have multiple realities in your mind and use facts to distinguish between real and false.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Focus on what the counterpart has to say and what he needs and wants. Understanding him makes him vulnerable.</li> <li>Empathy understanding the other person from his perspective, but it does not mean agreeing with him.</li> <li>Detect and label the emotions of others for your powers. </li> <li>To be understood seems to solve all problems magically.</li> -</ul> -<p>Try: to put a label on someone's emotion and then be silent. Wait for the other to reveal himself. "You seem unhappy about this?"</p> -<h3>More tips </h3> +</ul><br /> +<span>Try: to put a label on someone's emotion and then be silent. Wait for the other to reveal himself. "You seem unhappy about this?"</span><br /> +<br /> +<h3 style='display: inline'>More tips </h3><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Put on a poker face and don't show emotions.</li> <li>Slow things down. Don't be a problem solver.</li> <li>Smile while you are talking, even on the phone. Be easy and encouraging.</li> <li>Being right is not the key to successful negotiation; being mindful is.</li> <li>Be in the safe zone of empathy and acknowledge bad news.</li> -</ul> -<h2>"No" starts the conversation</h2> -<p>When the opponent starts with a "no", he feels in control and comfortable. That's why he has to start with "no".</p> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>"No" starts the conversation</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>When the opponent starts with a "no", he feels in control and comfortable. That's why he has to start with "no".</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>"Yes" and "maybe" might be worthless, but "no" starts the conversation.</li> <li>If someone is saying "no" to you, he will be open to what you have to say next.</li> <li>"No" is not stopping the negotiation but will open up opportunities you were not thinking about before.</li> <li>Start with "no". Great negotiators seek "no" because that's when the great discussions begin.</li> <li>A "no" can be scary if you are not used to it. If your biggest fear is "no", then you can't negotiate.</li> -</ul> -<p>Get a "That's right" when negotiating. Don't get a "you're right". You can summarise the opponent to get a "that's right".</p> -<h2>Win-win</h2> -<p>Win-win is a naive approach when encountering the win-lose counterpart, but always cooperate. Don't compromise, and don't split the difference. We don't compromise because it's right; we do it because it is easy. You must embrace the hard stuff; that's where the great deals are.</p> -<h2>On Deadlines</h2> +</ul><br /> +<span>Get a "That's right" when negotiating. Don't get a "you're right". You can summarise the opponent to get a "that's right".</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Win-win</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Win-win is a naive approach when encountering the win-lose counterpart, but always cooperate. Don't compromise, and don't split the difference. We don't compromise because it's right; we do it because it is easy. You must embrace the hard stuff; that's where the great deals are.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>On Deadlines</h2><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>All deadlines are imaginary.</li> <li>Most of the time, deadlines unsettle us without a good reason.</li> <li>They push a deal to a conclusion.</li> <li>They rush the counterpart to cause pressure and anxiety.</li> -</ul> -<h2>Analyse the opponent</h2> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Analyse the opponent</h2><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Understand the motivation of people behind the table as well.</li> <li>Ask how affected they will be.</li> <li>Determine your and the opposite negotiation style. Accommodation, analyst, assertive.</li> <li>Treat them how they need to be treated.</li> -</ul> -<p>The person on the other side is never the issue; the problem is the issue. Keep this in mind to avoid emotional issues with the person and focus on the problem, not the person. The bond is essential; never create an enemy.</p> -<h2>Use different ways of saying "no."</h2> -<p class="quote"><i>I had paid my rent always in time. I had positive experiences with the building and would be sad for the landlord to lose a good tenant. I am looking for a win-win agreement between us. Pulling out the research, other neighbours offer much lower prices even if your building is a better location and services. How can I effort 200 more.... </i></p> -<p>...then put an extreme anker.</p> -<p>You always have to embrace thoughtful confrontation for good negotiation and life. Don't avoid honest, clear conflict. It will give you the best deals. Compromises are mostly bad deals for both sides. Most people don't negotiate a win-win but a win-lose. Know the best and worst outcomes and what is acceptable for you.</p> -<h2>Calibrated question</h2> -<p>Calibrated questions. Give the opponent a sense of power. Ask open-how questions to get the opponent to solve your problem and move him in your direction. Calibrated questions are the best tools. Summarise everything, and then ask, "how I am supposed to do that?". Asking for help this way with a calibrated question is a powerful tool for joint problem solving</p> -<p>Being calm and respectful is essential. Without control of your emotions, it won't work. The counterpart will have no idea how constrained they are with your question. Avoid questions which get a yes or short answers. Use "why?".</p> -<p>Counterparts are more involved if these are their solutions. The counterpart must answer with "that's right", not "you are right". He has to own the problem. If not, then add more why questions.</p> +</ul><br /> +<span>The person on the other side is never the issue; the problem is the issue. Keep this in mind to avoid emotional issues with the person and focus on the problem, not the person. The bond is essential; never create an enemy.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Use different ways of saying "no."</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span class=quote>I had paid my rent always in time. I had positive experiences with the building and would be sad for the landlord to lose a good tenant. I am looking for a win-win agreement between us. Pulling out the research, other neighbours offer much lower prices even if your building is a better location and services. How can I effort 200 more.... </span><br /> +<br /> +<span>...then put an extreme anker.</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>You always have to embrace thoughtful confrontation for good negotiation and life. Don't avoid honest, clear conflict. It will give you the best deals. Compromises are mostly bad deals for both sides. Most people don't negotiate a win-win but a win-lose. Know the best and worst outcomes and what is acceptable for you.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Calibrated question</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Calibrated questions. Give the opponent a sense of power. Ask open-how questions to get the opponent to solve your problem and move him in your direction. Calibrated questions are the best tools. Summarise everything, and then ask, "how I am supposed to do that?". Asking for help this way with a calibrated question is a powerful tool for joint problem solving</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>Being calm and respectful is essential. Without control of your emotions, it won't work. The counterpart will have no idea how constrained they are with your question. Avoid questions which get a yes or short answers. Use "why?".</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>Counterparts are more involved if these are their solutions. The counterpart must answer with "that's right", not "you are right". He has to own the problem. If not, then add more why questions.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Tone and body language need to align with what people are saying.</li> <li>Deal with it via a labelled question. </li> <li>Liers tend to talk with "them" and "their" and not with "I".</li> <li>Also, liars tend to talk in complex sentences.</li> -</ul> -<p>Prepare 3 to 5 calibrated questions for your counterpart. Be curious what is really motivating the other side. You can get out the "Black Swan".</p> -<h2>The black swan </h2> -<p>What we don't know can break our deal. Uncovering it can bring us unexpected success. You get what you ask for in this world, but you must learn to ask correctly. Reveal the black swan by asking questions.</p> -<h2>More</h2> -<p>Establish a range at top places like corp. I get... (e.g. remote London on a project basis). Set a high salary range and not a number. Also, check on LinkedIn premium for the salaries.</p> +</ul><br /> +<span>Prepare 3 to 5 calibrated questions for your counterpart. Be curious what is really motivating the other side. You can get out the "Black Swan".</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>The black swan </h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>What we don't know can break our deal. Uncovering it can bring us unexpected success. You get what you ask for in this world, but you must learn to ask correctly. Reveal the black swan by asking questions.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>More</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Establish a range at top places like corp. I get... (e.g. remote London on a project basis). Set a high salary range and not a number. Also, check on LinkedIn premium for the salaries.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Give an unexpected gift, e.g. show them my pet project and publicity for engineering.</li> <li>Use an odd number, which makes you seem to have thought a lot about the sum and calculated it.</li> @@ -103,13 +135,17 @@ <li>Tactical empathy, listening as a martial art. It is emotional intelligence on steroids.</li> <li>Being right isn't the key to a successful negotiation, but having the correct mindset is.</li> <li>Don't shop the groceries when you are hungry.</li> -</ul> -<p>Slow.... it.... down....</p> -<p>Other book notes of mine are:</p> -<a class="textlink" href="./2023-04-01-never-split-the-difference-book-notes.html">2023-04-01 "Never split the difference" book notes (You are currently reading this)</a><br /> -<a class="textlink" href="./2023-03-16-the-pragmatic-programmer-book-notes.html">2023-03-16 "The Pragmatic Programmer" book notes</a><br /> -<p>E-Mail your comments to hi@paul.cyou :-)</p> -<a class="textlink" href="../">Back to the main site</a><br /> +</ul><br /> +<span>Slow.... it.... down....</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> +<br /> +<a class=textlink href='./2023-04-01-never-split-the-difference-book-notes.html'>2023-04-01 "Never split the difference" book notes (You are currently reading this)</a><br /> +<a class=textlink href='./2023-03-16-the-pragmatic-programmer-book-notes.html'>2023-03-16 "The Pragmatic Programmer" book notes</a><br /> +<br /> +<span>E-Mail your comments to hi@paul.cyou :-)</span><br /> +<br /> +<a class=textlink href='../'>Back to the main site</a><br /> <p class="footer"> Generated with <a href="https://codeberg.org/snonux/gemtexter">Gemtexter</a> | served by <a href="https://www.OpenBSD.org">OpenBSD</a>/<a href="https://man.openbsd.org/httpd.8">httpd(8)</a> | diff --git a/notes/soft-skills.html b/notes/soft-skills.html index adc21997..88ed3eed 100644 --- a/notes/soft-skills.html +++ b/notes/soft-skills.html @@ -8,11 +8,16 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1>"Software Developmers Career Guide & Soft Skills" book notes</h1> -<p class="quote"><i>Last updated 29.5.2022</i></p> -<h1>Improve</h1> -<h2>Always learn new things</h2> -<p>When you learn something new, e.g. a programming language, first gather an overview, learn from multiple sources, play around and learn by doing and not consuming and form your own questions. Don't read too much upfront. A large amount of time is spent in learning technical skills which were never use. You want to have a practical set of skills you are actually using. You need to know 20 percent to get out 80 percent of the results.</p> +<h1 style='display: inline'>"Software Developmers Career Guide & Soft Skills" book notes</h1><br /> +<br /> +<span class=quote>Last updated 29.5.2022</span><br /> +<br /> +<h1 style='display: inline'>Improve</h1><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Always learn new things</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>When you learn something new, e.g. a programming language, first gather an overview, learn from multiple sources, play around and learn by doing and not consuming and form your own questions. Don't read too much upfront. A large amount of time is spent in learning technical skills which were never use. You want to have a practical set of skills you are actually using. You need to know 20 percent to get out 80 percent of the results.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Learn a technology with a goal, e.g. implement a tool. Practice practise practice.</li> <li>"I know X can do Y, I don't know exactly how, but I can look it up."</li> @@ -22,19 +27,27 @@ <li>Self learning is the top skill a programmer can have and is also useful in other aspects in your life.</li> <li>Keep learning skills every day. Code every day. Don't be overconfident for job security. Read blogs, read books.</li> <li>If you want to learn, then do it by exploring. Also teach what you learned (for example write a blog post or hold a presentation).</li> -</ul> -<p>Fake it until you make it. But be honest about your abilities or lack of. There is however only time between now and until you make it. Refer to your abilities to learn.</p> -<p>Boot camps: The advantage of a boot camp is to pragmatically learn things fast. We almost always overestimate what we can do in a day. Especially during boot camps. Connect to others during the boot camps</p> -<h2>Set goals</h2> -<p>Your own goals are important but the manager also looks at how the team performs and how someone can help the team perform better. Check whether you are on track with your goals every 2 weeks in order to avoid surprises for the annual review. Make concrete goals for next review. Track and document your progress. Invest in your education. Make your goals known. If you want something, then ask for it. Nobody but you knows what you want.</p> -<h2>Ratings</h2> -<p>That's a trap: If you have to rate yourself, that's a trap. That never works in an unbiased way. Rate yourself always the best way but rate your weakest part as high as possible minus one point. Rate yourself as good as you can otherwise. Nobody is putting for fun a gun on his own head. </p> +</ul><br /> +<span>Fake it until you make it. But be honest about your abilities or lack of. There is however only time between now and until you make it. Refer to your abilities to learn.</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>Boot camps: The advantage of a boot camp is to pragmatically learn things fast. We almost always overestimate what we can do in a day. Especially during boot camps. Connect to others during the boot camps</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Set goals</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Your own goals are important but the manager also looks at how the team performs and how someone can help the team perform better. Check whether you are on track with your goals every 2 weeks in order to avoid surprises for the annual review. Make concrete goals for next review. Track and document your progress. Invest in your education. Make your goals known. If you want something, then ask for it. Nobody but you knows what you want.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Ratings</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>That's a trap: If you have to rate yourself, that's a trap. That never works in an unbiased way. Rate yourself always the best way but rate your weakest part as high as possible minus one point. Rate yourself as good as you can otherwise. Nobody is putting for fun a gun on his own head. </span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Don't do peer rating, it can fire back on you. What if the colleague becomes your new boss?</li> <li>Cooperate rankings are unfortunately HR guidelines and politics and only mirror a little your actual performance.</li> -</ul> -<h2>Promotions</h2> -<p>The most valuable employees are the ones who make themselves obsolete and automate all away. Keep a safety net of 3 to 6 months of finances. Safe at least 10 percent of your earnings. Also, if you make money it does not mean that you have to spent more money. Is a new car better than a used car which both can bring you from A to B? Liability vs assets.</p> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Promotions</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>The most valuable employees are the ones who make themselves obsolete and automate all away. Keep a safety net of 3 to 6 months of finances. Safe at least 10 percent of your earnings. Also, if you make money it does not mean that you have to spent more money. Is a new car better than a used car which both can bring you from A to B? Liability vs assets.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Raise or promotion, what's better? Promotion is better as money will follow anyway then.</li> <li>Take projects no-one wants and make them shine. A promotion will follow.</li> @@ -43,83 +56,112 @@ <li>Big corporations HRs don't expect a figjit. That's why it's so important to keep track of your accomplishments and kudos'.</li> <li>If you want a raise be specific how much and know to back your demands. Don't make a thread and no ultimatums.</li> <li>Best way for a promotion is to switch jobs. You can even switch back with a better salary.</li> -</ul> -<h2>Finish things</h2> -<p>Hard work is necessary for accomplish results. However, work smarter not harder. Furthermore, working smart is not a substitute for working hard. Work both, hard and smart.</p> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Finish things</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Hard work is necessary for accomplish results. However, work smarter not harder. Furthermore, working smart is not a substitute for working hard. Work both, hard and smart.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Learn to finish things without motivation. Things will pay off when you stick to stuff and eventually motivation can also come back.</li> <li>You will fail if you don't plan realistically. Set also a schedule and follow to it as of life depends on it.</li> <li>Advances come only of you give more than asked. Consistency, commitment and knowing what you need to do is more key than hard work.</li> <li>Any action is better than no action. If you get stuck you have gained nothing.</li> <li>You need to know the unknowns. Identify as many unknown not known things as possible. </li> -</ul> -<p>Hard vs fun: Both engage the brain (video games vs work). Some work is hard and other is easy. Hard work is boring. The harsh truth is you have to put in hard and boring work in order to accomplish and be successful. Work won't be always boring though, as joy will follow with mastery.</p> -<p>Defeat is finally give up. Failure is the road to success, embrace it. Failure does not define you but how you respond to it. Events don't make your unhappy, but how you react to events do.</p> -<h2>Expand the empire</h2> -<p>The larger your empire is, the larger your circle of influence is. The larger the circle of influence is, the more opportunities you have.</p> +</ul><br /> +<span>Hard vs fun: Both engage the brain (video games vs work). Some work is hard and other is easy. Hard work is boring. The harsh truth is you have to put in hard and boring work in order to accomplish and be successful. Work won't be always boring though, as joy will follow with mastery.</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>Defeat is finally give up. Failure is the road to success, embrace it. Failure does not define you but how you respond to it. Events don't make your unhappy, but how you react to events do.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Expand the empire</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>The larger your empire is, the larger your circle of influence is. The larger the circle of influence is, the more opportunities you have.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Do the dirty work if you want to expand the empire. That's there the opportunities are.</li> <li>SCRUM often fails due to the lack to commitment. The backlog just becomes a wish to get completed.</li> <li>Apply work on your quality standards. Don't cross the line of compromise. Always improve your skills. Never be happy being good enough.</li> -</ul> -<p>Become visible, keep track that you accomplishments. E.g. write a weekly summary. Do presentations, be seen. Learn new things and share your learnings. Be the problem solver and not the blamer.</p> -<h2>Be pragmatic and also manage your time</h2> -<p>Make use of time boxing via the Pomodoro technique: Set a target of rounds and track the rounds. That give you exact focused work time. That's really the trick. For example set a goal of 6 daily pomodores.</p> +</ul><br /> +<span>Become visible, keep track that you accomplishments. E.g. write a weekly summary. Do presentations, be seen. Learn new things and share your learnings. Be the problem solver and not the blamer.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Be pragmatic and also manage your time</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Make use of time boxing via the Pomodoro technique: Set a target of rounds and track the rounds. That give you exact focused work time. That's really the trick. For example set a goal of 6 daily pomodores.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Every time you do something question why does it make sense be pragmatic and don't follow because it is best practice.</li> <li>You can also apply the time boxing technique (Cal Newport) for focused deep work.</li> -</ul> -<p>You should feel good of the work done even if you don't finished the task. You will feel good about pomodoro wise even you don't finish the task on hand yet. Helps you to enjoy time off more. Working longer may not sell anything.</p> -<h3>The quota system</h3> -<p>Defined quota of things done. E.g. N runs per week or M Blog posts per month or O pomodoros per week. This helps with consistency. Truly commit to these quotas. Failure is not an option. Start with small commitments. Don't commit to something you can't fulfill otherwise you set yourself up for failure.</p> +</ul><br /> +<span>You should feel good of the work done even if you don't finished the task. You will feel good about pomodoro wise even you don't finish the task on hand yet. Helps you to enjoy time off more. Working longer may not sell anything.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h3 style='display: inline'>The quota system</h3><br /> +<br /> +<span>Defined quota of things done. E.g. N runs per week or M Blog posts per month or O pomodoros per week. This helps with consistency. Truly commit to these quotas. Failure is not an option. Start with small commitments. Don't commit to something you can't fulfill otherwise you set yourself up for failure.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Why does the quota System work? Slow and consistent pace is the key. It also overcomes willpower weaknesses as goals are preset.</li> <li>Internal motivation is more important over external motivation. Check out Daniels book drive.</li> <li>Multitasking: Batching is effective. E.g. emails twice daily at pre-set times..</li> -</ul> -<h3>Don't waste time</h3> -<p>The biggest time waster is TV watching. The TV is programming you. It's insane that Americans watch so much TV as they work full time. Schedule one show at a time and watch it when you want to watch it. Most movies are crap anyways. The good movies will come to you as people will talk about them.</p> +</ul><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline'>Don't waste time</h3><br /> +<br /> +<span>The biggest time waster is TV watching. The TV is programming you. It's insane that Americans watch so much TV as they work full time. Schedule one show at a time and watch it when you want to watch it. Most movies are crap anyways. The good movies will come to you as people will talk about them.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Social media is time waster as well. Schedule your Social Media times. For example be on Facebook only for max one hour on Saturdays.</li> <li>Meetings can waste time as well. Simply don't go to them. Try to cancel meeting if it can be dealt with via email.</li> <li>Enjoying things is not a waste of time. E.g. you could still play a game once in a while. It is important not to cut away all you enjoy from your life.</li> -</ul> -<h3>Habits</h3> -<p>Try to have as many good habits as possible. Start with easy habits, and make them a little bit more challenging over time. Set ankers and rewards. Over time the routines will become habits naturally.</p> -<p>Habit stacking is effective, which is combining multiple habits at the same time. For example you can workout on a circular trainer while while watching a learning video on O'Reilly Safari Online while getting closer to your weekly step goal.</p> +</ul><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline'>Habits</h3><br /> +<br /> +<span>Try to have as many good habits as possible. Start with easy habits, and make them a little bit more challenging over time. Set ankers and rewards. Over time the routines will become habits naturally.</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>Habit stacking is effective, which is combining multiple habits at the same time. For example you can workout on a circular trainer while while watching a learning video on O'Reilly Safari Online while getting closer to your weekly step goal.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>We don't have control over our habits but our own routines.</li> <li>Routines help to form the habits, though.</li> -</ul> -<h1>Work-life balance</h1> -<p>Avoid overwork hours. That's not as beneficial as you might think and comes only with very small rewards. Invest rather in yourself and not in your employer.</p> +</ul><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline'>Work-life balance</h1><br /> +<br /> +<span>Avoid overwork hours. That's not as beneficial as you might think and comes only with very small rewards. Invest rather in yourself and not in your employer.</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Work-life balance is a myth. Make it so that you enjoy work and your personal life and not just personal life.</li> <li>Maintain fewer but good relationships. As a reward, better and integrated your life will be.</li> <li>Life in the present Moment. Make the best of every moment of your life.</li> <li>Enjoy every aspect of your life. If you want to take away one thing from this book that is it.</li> -</ul> -<p>Use your most productive hours to work on you. Make that your priority. Take care of yourself a priority (E.g. do workouts or learn a new language). You can always workout 2 or 1 hour per day, but will you pay the price?</p> -<h2>Mental health</h2> +</ul><br /> +<span>Use your most productive hours to work on you. Make that your priority. Take care of yourself a priority (E.g. do workouts or learn a new language). You can always workout 2 or 1 hour per day, but will you pay the price?</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Mental health</h2><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>Friendships and positive thinking help to have and maintain better health, longer Life, better productivity and increased happiness.</li> <li>Positive thinking can be trained and be a habit. Read the book "The Power of Positive Thinking".</li> <li>Stoicism helps. Meditation helps. Playing for fun helps too.</li> -</ul> -<p>Become the person you want to become (your self image). Program your brain unconsciously. Don't become the person other people want you to be. Embrace yourself, you are you.</p> -<p>In most cases burnout is just an illusion. If you don't have motivation push through the wall. People usually don't pass the wall as they feel they are burned out. After pushing through the wall you will have the most fun, for example you will be able playing the guitar greatly.</p> -<h2>Physical health</h2> -<p>Utilise a standing desk and treadmill (you could walk and type at the same time). Increase the incline in order to burn more calories. Even on the standing desk you burn more calories than sitting. When you use pomodoro then you can use the small breaks for push-ups (maybe won't do as good when you are in a fasted state).</p> +</ul><br /> +<span>Become the person you want to become (your self image). Program your brain unconsciously. Don't become the person other people want you to be. Embrace yourself, you are you.</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>In most cases burnout is just an illusion. If you don't have motivation push through the wall. People usually don't pass the wall as they feel they are burned out. After pushing through the wall you will have the most fun, for example you will be able playing the guitar greatly.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>Physical health</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Utilise a standing desk and treadmill (you could walk and type at the same time). Increase the incline in order to burn more calories. Even on the standing desk you burn more calories than sitting. When you use pomodoro then you can use the small breaks for push-ups (maybe won't do as good when you are in a fasted state).</span><br /> +<br /> <ul> <li>You can only do one thing, lose fat or gain muscles. Not both at the same time.</li> <li>Train your strength by heavy lifting, but only with a very few repetitions (e.g. 5 max for each exercise, everything over this is body building).</li> <li>If you want to increase the muscle mass use medium weights but lift them more often. If you want to increase your endurance lift light weights but with even more reps.</li> <li>Avoid highly processed foods</li> -</ul> -<p>Intermittent fasting is an effective method to maintain weight and health. But it does not mean that you can only eat junk food in the feeding windows. Also, diet and nutrition is the most important for health and fitness. They make it also easier to stay focused and positive.</p> -<h2>No drama</h2> -<p>Avoid drama at work. Where are humans there is drama. You can decide where to spent your energy in. But don't avoid conflict. Conflict is healthy in any kind of relationship. Be tactful and state your opinion. The goal is to find the best solution to the problem.</p> -<p>Don't worry about other people what they do and don't do. You only worry about you. Shut up and get your own things done. But you could help to inspire a not working colleague.</p> +</ul><br /> +<span>Intermittent fasting is an effective method to maintain weight and health. But it does not mean that you can only eat junk food in the feeding windows. Also, diet and nutrition is the most important for health and fitness. They make it also easier to stay focused and positive.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline'>No drama</h2><br /> +<br /> +<span>Avoid drama at work. Where are humans there is drama. You can decide where to spent your energy in. But don't avoid conflict. Conflict is healthy in any kind of relationship. Be tactful and state your opinion. The goal is to find the best solution to the problem.</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>Don't worry about other people what t |