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diff --git a/gemfeed/2023-03-16-the-pragmatic-programmer-book-notes.html b/gemfeed/2023-03-16-the-pragmatic-programmer-book-notes.html index 09264d9c..234a3fde 100644 --- a/gemfeed/2023-03-16-the-pragmatic-programmer-book-notes.html +++ b/gemfeed/2023-03-16-the-pragmatic-programmer-book-notes.html @@ -98,6 +98,7 @@ <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> diff --git a/gemfeed/2023-04-01-never-split-the-difference-book-notes.html b/gemfeed/2023-04-01-never-split-the-difference-book-notes.html index 33132632..b1604a05 100644 --- a/gemfeed/2023-04-01-never-split-the-difference-book-notes.html +++ b/gemfeed/2023-04-01-never-split-the-difference-book-notes.html @@ -161,6 +161,7 @@ <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> diff --git a/gemfeed/2023-05-06-the-obstacle-is-the-way-book-notes.html b/gemfeed/2023-05-06-the-obstacle-is-the-way-book-notes.html index b2c339a5..c7b75d0c 100644 --- a/gemfeed/2023-05-06-the-obstacle-is-the-way-book-notes.html +++ b/gemfeed/2023-05-06-the-obstacle-is-the-way-book-notes.html @@ -114,6 +114,7 @@ <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> diff --git a/gemfeed/2023-07-17-career-guide-and-soft-skills-book-notes.html b/gemfeed/2023-07-17-career-guide-and-soft-skills-book-notes.html index 85826012..6387b272 100644 --- a/gemfeed/2023-07-17-career-guide-and-soft-skills-book-notes.html +++ b/gemfeed/2023-07-17-career-guide-and-soft-skills-book-notes.html @@ -346,6 +346,7 @@ <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> diff --git a/gemfeed/2023-11-11-mind-management-book-notes.html b/gemfeed/2023-11-11-mind-management-book-notes.html index c22ad188..faeb2941 100644 --- a/gemfeed/2023-11-11-mind-management-book-notes.html +++ b/gemfeed/2023-11-11-mind-management-book-notes.html @@ -131,6 +131,7 @@ <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> diff --git a/gemfeed/2024-05-01-slow-productivity-book-notes.html b/gemfeed/2024-05-01-slow-productivity-book-notes.html index cbb2265b..0eec5b51 100644 --- a/gemfeed/2024-05-01-slow-productivity-book-notes.html +++ b/gemfeed/2024-05-01-slow-productivity-book-notes.html @@ -157,6 +157,7 @@ <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> diff --git a/gemfeed/2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html b/gemfeed/2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html index 89d4a63b..551b47b1 100644 --- a/gemfeed/2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html +++ b/gemfeed/2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html @@ -73,6 +73,7 @@ <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes (You are currently reading this)</a><br /> diff --git a/gemfeed/2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html b/gemfeed/2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html index 68befadb..03439537 100644 --- a/gemfeed/2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html +++ b/gemfeed/2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html @@ -138,6 +138,7 @@ <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes (You are currently reading this)</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> diff --git a/gemfeed/2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html b/gemfeed/2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html index f45f6c09..dc4728ec 100644 --- a/gemfeed/2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html +++ b/gemfeed/2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html @@ -118,6 +118,7 @@ __ejm\___/________dwb`---`______________________ <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes (You are currently reading this)</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> diff --git a/gemfeed/2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html b/gemfeed/2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html new file mode 100644 index 00000000..2ca89298 --- /dev/null +++ b/gemfeed/2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html @@ -0,0 +1,108 @@ +<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC "-//W3C//DTD XHTML 1.0 Transitional//EN" "http://www.w3.org/TR/xhtml1/DTD/xhtml1-transitional.dtd"> +<html xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" lang="en" xml:lang="en"> +<head> +<meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8" /> +<title>'A Monk's Guide to Happiness' 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They are for my own reference, but I hope they might be useful to you as well.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='table-of-contents'>Table of Contents</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li><a href='#a-monk-s-guide-to-happiness-book-notes'>"A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#understanding-happiness'>Understanding Happiness</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#the-role-of-meditation'>The Role of Meditation</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#managing-thoughts-and-emotions'>Managing Thoughts and Emotions</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#practice-and-discipline'>Practice and Discipline</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#perspectives-on-relationships-and-interactions'>Perspectives on Relationships and Interactions</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#reflective-questions'>Reflective Questions</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#miscellaneous-guidelines'>Miscellaneous Guidelines</a></li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='understanding-happiness'>Understanding Happiness</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li>Happiness is a skill we can train. </li> +<li>Happiness is not about accomplishing goals, as that would be in the future. </li> +<li>Feel free now. No urge about past and future. </li> +<li>We can learn to produce our own happiness independently of physical needs. When we walk in a park, how do we feel? We can train to reproduce that feeling independently. </li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='the-role-of-meditation'>The Role of Meditation</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li>Meditation is not about clearing your mind. A busy mind has nothing to do with interfering with your meditation.</li> +<li>Our problem is that we need to detect that awareness. Meditation connects us with awareness. Awareness is freedom.</li> +<li>We can let the mind be and don't care about the thoughts. It will have benefits for your life. It will protect you from all kinds of stress.</li> +<li>Better meditate with open eyes so you don't associate it with the dark. You will also be able to be in a meditation state of mind outside of the meditation session.</li> +<li>Have a baseline for time to build up discipline.</li> +<li>We don't need to do anything about stress, just take a step back.</li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='managing-thoughts-and-emotions'>Managing Thoughts and Emotions</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li>Our flow of emotions is really just habits. That can be changed through training, e.g., meditation training.</li> +<li>A part of the mind recognises that we are sad or angry. That part is not sad or angry by itself, obviously. So we can escape to that part of the mind, be the observer, and not draw in the constant flow of emotions and thoughts. </li> +<li>Let the front and back doors of your house open, and let the thoughts come in and leave. Just don't serve them tea. This once said, a great Zen master.</li> +<li>Thoughts are friends and not enemies. </li> +<li>Thoughts help the meditation as they make us notice that we wandered off, and therefore, we strengthen the reflection.</li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='practice-and-discipline'>Practice and Discipline</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li>The importance of habits to practice mindfulness. Bring mindfulness into the daily practice.</li> +<li>Integrating short moments of mindfulness during the day is the fast track to happiness. Start off with small tasks, e.g. while washing your hands.</li> +<li>Have many small doses of mindfulness and don't prolong as otherwise, your mind will revolt.</li> +<li>Have a small moment of mindfulness when you wake up and go to sleep.</li> +<li>Practice staying fully present in an uncomfortable situation and without judgement.</li> +<li>Don't become two persons who never meet: the meditator and the not meditator. So integrate mindfulness during the day too.</li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='perspectives-on-relationships-and-interactions'>Perspectives on Relationships and Interactions</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li>Who is the opponent? The other person. The things he said or our reactions to things? Forgiveness is a high form of compassion.</li> +<li>Understand the suffering of the person who "hurt" us. Where is the aggressor really coming from?</li> +<li>People who are stressed or unhappy do and say things they wouldn't have said have done otherwise. Acting under anger is like being influenced by alcohol.</li> +<li>People don't have a masterplan to destroy others, even if it seems so. They are under strong bad influence by themselves. Something terrible happened to them. Revenge makes no sense.</li> +<li>Be grateful for people "trying" to hurt you as they help you to practice your path.</li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='reflective-questions'>Reflective Questions</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li> Why do I do all the things I do? What do I try to achieve?</li> +<li> What am I doing about that? </li> +<li> Is it working?</li> +<li> What are the real causes of happiness and suffering?</li> +<li> What about meditation? How does that address the situation?</li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='miscellaneous-guidelines'>Miscellaneous Guidelines</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li> Posture is important as the mind and body are connected.</li> +<li> Don't use music, so you don't rely on music to change your state of mind. Similar regular guided meditation. Guided meditation is good for learning a technique, but you should not rely on another voice.</li> +<li> You are not trying to relax. Relaxing and trying are two different things.</li> +<li> When you love everything, even the bad things happening to you, then you are invincible.</li> +<li> Happiness is all in your mind. As if you flip a switch there.</li> +<li> Digging for answers will never end. It will always cause more material to dig.</li> +</ul><br /> +<span>If happiness is a mental issue. Clearly, the best time is spent training your mind in your free time and don't always be busy with other things. E.g. meditation, or think about the benefits of meditation. All that we do in our free time is search for happiness. Are the things we do actually working? There is always something around the corner...</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>E-Mail your comments to <span class='inlinecode'>paul@nospam.buetow.org</span> :-)</span><br /> +<br /> +<a class='textlink' href='../'>Back to the main site</a><br /> +<p class="footer"> +Generated with <a href="https://codeberg.org/snonux/gemtexter">Gemtexter 3.0.1-develop</a> | +served by <a href="https://www.OpenBSD.org">OpenBSD</a>/<a href="https://man.openbsd.org/relayd.8">relayd(8)</a>+<a href="https://man.openbsd.org/httpd.8">httpd(8)</a> | +<a href="https://foo.zone/site-mirrors.html">Site Mirrors</a> +</p> +</body> +</html> diff --git a/gemfeed/DRAFT-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-6.html b/gemfeed/DRAFT-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-6.html index 0219cb6e..16d93b1b 100644 --- a/gemfeed/DRAFT-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-6.html +++ b/gemfeed/DRAFT-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-6.html @@ -33,6 +33,7 @@ <li>⇢ <a href='#ufs-setup'>UFS Setup</a></li> <li>⇢ <a href='#zfs-setup'>ZFS Setup</a></li> <li>⇢ ⇢ <a href='#encryption'>Encryption</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#hast'>HAST</a></li> </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline' id='introduction'>Introduction</h2><br /> <br /> @@ -217,27 +218,8 @@ config: errors: No known data errors </pre> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='hast'>HAST</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>ZFS auto scrubbing....~?</span><br /> -<br /> -<span>Backup of the keys on the key locations (all keys on all 3 USB keys)</span><br /> -<br /> -<span>Other *BSD-related posts:</span><br /> -<br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./2025-05-11-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-5.html'>2025-05-11 f3s: Kubernetes with FreeBSD - Part 5: WireGuard mesh network</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-05-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-4.html'>2025-04-05 f3s: Kubernetes with FreeBSD - Part 4: Rocky Linux Bhyve VMs</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./2025-02-01-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-3.html'>2025-02-01 f3s: Kubernetes with FreeBSD - Part 3: Protecting from power cuts</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./2024-12-03-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-2.html'>2024-12-03 f3s: Kubernetes with FreeBSD - Part 2: Hardware and base installation</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./2024-11-17-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-1.html'>2024-11-17 f3s: Kubernetes with FreeBSD - Part 1: Setting the stage</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./2024-04-01-KISS-high-availability-with-OpenBSD.html'>2024-04-01 KISS high-availability with OpenBSD</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./2024-01-13-one-reason-why-i-love-openbsd.html'>2024-01-13 One reason why I love OpenBSD</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./2022-10-30-installing-dtail-on-openbsd.html'>2022-10-30 Installing DTail on OpenBSD</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./2022-07-30-lets-encrypt-with-openbsd-and-rex.html'>2022-07-30 Let's Encrypt with OpenBSD and Rex</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./2016-04-09-jails-and-zfs-on-freebsd-with-puppet.html'>2016-04-09 Jails and ZFS with Puppet on FreeBSD</a><br /> -<br /> -<span>E-Mail your comments to <span class='inlinecode'>paul@nospam.buetow.org</span></span><br /> -<br /> -<a class='textlink' href='../'>Back to the main site</a><br /> <p class="footer"> Generated with <a href="https://codeberg.org/snonux/gemtexter">Gemtexter 3.0.1-develop</a> | served by <a href="https://www.OpenBSD.org">OpenBSD</a>/<a href="https://man.openbsd.org/relayd.8">relayd(8)</a>+<a href="https://man.openbsd.org/httpd.8">httpd(8)</a> | diff --git a/gemfeed/atom.xml b/gemfeed/atom.xml index 078d0cc6..7489d470 100644 --- a/gemfeed/atom.xml +++ b/gemfeed/atom.xml @@ -1,12 +1,113 @@ <?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?> <feed xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"> - <updated>2025-06-03T10:27:49+03:00</updated> + <updated>2025-06-07T10:30:12+03:00</updated> <title>foo.zone feed</title> <subtitle>To be in the .zone!</subtitle> <link href="https://foo.zone/gemfeed/atom.xml" rel="self" /> <link href="https://foo.zone/" /> <id>https://foo.zone/</id> <entry> + <title>'A Monk's Guide to Happiness' book notes</title> + <link href="https://foo.zone/gemfeed/2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html" /> + <id>https://foo.zone/gemfeed/2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html</id> + <updated>2025-06-07T10:30:11+03:00</updated> + <author> + <name>Paul Buetow aka snonux</name> + <email>paul@dev.buetow.org</email> + </author> + <summary>These are my personal book notes from Gelong Thubten's 'A Monk's Guide to Happiness: Meditation in the 21st century.' They are for my own reference, but I hope they might be useful to you as well.</summary> + <content type="xhtml"> + <div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"> + <h1 style='display: inline' id='a-monk-s-guide-to-happiness-book-notes'>"A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</h1><br /> +<br /> +<span>These are my personal book notes from Gelong Thubten's "A Monk's Guide to Happiness: Meditation in the 21st century." They are for my own reference, but I hope they might be useful to you as well.</span><br /> +<br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='table-of-contents'>Table of Contents</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li><a href='#a-monk-s-guide-to-happiness-book-notes'>"A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#understanding-happiness'>Understanding Happiness</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#the-role-of-meditation'>The Role of Meditation</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#managing-thoughts-and-emotions'>Managing Thoughts and Emotions</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#practice-and-discipline'>Practice and Discipline</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#perspectives-on-relationships-and-interactions'>Perspectives on Relationships and Interactions</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#reflective-questions'>Reflective Questions</a></li> +<li>⇢ <a href='#miscellaneous-guidelines'>Miscellaneous Guidelines</a></li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='understanding-happiness'>Understanding Happiness</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li>Happiness is a skill we can train. </li> +<li>Happiness is not about accomplishing goals, as that would be in the future. </li> +<li>Feel free now. No urge about past and future. </li> +<li>We can learn to produce our own happiness independently of physical needs. When we walk in a park, how do we feel? We can train to reproduce that feeling independently. </li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='the-role-of-meditation'>The Role of Meditation</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li>Meditation is not about clearing your mind. A busy mind has nothing to do with interfering with your meditation.</li> +<li>Our problem is that we need to detect that awareness. Meditation connects us with awareness. Awareness is freedom.</li> +<li>We can let the mind be and don't care about the thoughts. It will have benefits for your life. It will protect you from all kinds of stress.</li> +<li>Better meditate with open eyes so you don't associate it with the dark. You will also be able to be in a meditation state of mind outside of the meditation session.</li> +<li>Have a baseline for time to build up discipline.</li> +<li>We don't need to do anything about stress, just take a step back.</li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='managing-thoughts-and-emotions'>Managing Thoughts and Emotions</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li>Our flow of emotions is really just habits. That can be changed through training, e.g., meditation training.</li> +<li>A part of the mind recognises that we are sad or angry. That part is not sad or angry by itself, obviously. So we can escape to that part of the mind, be the observer, and not draw in the constant flow of emotions and thoughts. </li> +<li>Let the front and back doors of your house open, and let the thoughts come in and leave. Just don't serve them tea. This once said, a great Zen master.</li> +<li>Thoughts are friends and not enemies. </li> +<li>Thoughts help the meditation as they make us notice that we wandered off, and therefore, we strengthen the reflection.</li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='practice-and-discipline'>Practice and Discipline</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li>The importance of habits to practice mindfulness. Bring mindfulness into the daily practice.</li> +<li>Integrating short moments of mindfulness during the day is the fast track to happiness. Start off with small tasks, e.g. while washing your hands.</li> +<li>Have many small doses of mindfulness and don't prolong as otherwise, your mind will revolt.</li> +<li>Have a small moment of mindfulness when you wake up and go to sleep.</li> +<li>Practice staying fully present in an uncomfortable situation and without judgement.</li> +<li>Don't become two persons who never meet: the meditator and the not meditator. So integrate mindfulness during the day too.</li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='perspectives-on-relationships-and-interactions'>Perspectives on Relationships and Interactions</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li>Who is the opponent? The other person. The things he said or our reactions to things? Forgiveness is a high form of compassion.</li> +<li>Understand the suffering of the person who "hurt" us. Where is the aggressor really coming from?</li> +<li>People who are stressed or unhappy do and say things they wouldn't have said have done otherwise. Acting under anger is like being influenced by alcohol.</li> +<li>People don't have a masterplan to destroy others, even if it seems so. They are under strong bad influence by themselves. Something terrible happened to them. Revenge makes no sense.</li> +<li>Be grateful for people "trying" to hurt you as they help you to practice your path.</li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='reflective-questions'>Reflective Questions</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li> Why do I do all the things I do? What do I try to achieve?</li> +<li> What am I doing about that? </li> +<li> Is it working?</li> +<li> What are the real causes of happiness and suffering?</li> +<li> What about meditation? How does that address the situation?</li> +</ul><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='miscellaneous-guidelines'>Miscellaneous Guidelines</h2><br /> +<br /> +<ul> +<li> Posture is important as the mind and body are connected.</li> +<li> Don't use music, so you don't rely on music to change your state of mind. Similar regular guided meditation. Guided meditation is good for learning a technique, but you should not rely on another voice.</li> +<li> You are not trying to relax. Relaxing and trying are two different things.</li> +<li> When you love everything, even the bad things happening to you, then you are invincible.</li> +<li> Happiness is all in your mind. As if you flip a switch there.</li> +<li> Digging for answers will never end. It will always cause more material to dig.</li> +</ul><br /> +<span>If happiness is a mental issue. Clearly, the best time is spent training your mind in your free time and don't always be busy with other things. E.g. meditation, or think about the benefits of meditation. All that we do in our free time is search for happiness. Are the things we do actually working? There is always something around the corner...</span><br /> +<br /> +<span>E-Mail your comments to <span class='inlinecode'>paul@nospam.buetow.org</span> :-)</span><br /> +<br /> +<a class='textlink' href='../'>Back to the main site</a><br /> + </div> + </content> + </entry> + <entry> <title>f3s: Kubernetes with FreeBSD - Part 5: WireGuard mesh network</title> <link href="https://foo.zone/gemfeed/2025-05-11-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-5.html" /> <id>https://foo.zone/gemfeed/2025-05-11-f3s-kubernetes-with-freebsd-part-5.html</id> @@ -1552,6 +1653,7 @@ __ejm\___/________dwb`---`______________________ <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes (You are currently reading this)</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> @@ -4669,6 +4771,7 @@ dev.cpu.<font color="#000000">0</font>.freq: <font color="#000000">2922</font> <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes (You are currently reading this)</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> @@ -5323,6 +5426,7 @@ jgs \\`_..---.Y.---.._`// <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes (You are currently reading this)</a><br /> @@ -6664,6 +6768,7 @@ http://www.gnu.org/software/src-highlite --> <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> @@ -8096,6 +8201,7 @@ echo baz <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> @@ -9318,6 +9424,7 @@ http://www.gnu.org/software/src-highlite --> <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> @@ -9747,6 +9854,7 @@ http://www.gnu.org/software/src-highlite --> <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> @@ -10114,6 +10222,7 @@ no1 in 455 days, 18:52:44 | at Sun Jul 21 07:37:51 2024 <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> @@ -10412,6 +10521,7 @@ The remaining content of the Gemtext file... <br /> <span>Other book notes of mine are:</span><br /> <br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./2025-06-07-a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes.html'>2025-06-07 "A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2025-04-19-when-book-notes.html'>2025-04-19 "When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-10-24-staff-engineer-book-notes.html'>2024-10-24 "Staff Engineer" book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./2024-07-07-the-stoic-challenge-book-notes.html'>2024-07-07 "The Stoic Challenge" book notes</a><br /> @@ -10426,110 +10536,4 @@ The remaining content of the Gemtext file... </div> </content> </entry> - <entry> - <title>How to shut down after work</title> - <link href="https://foo.zone/gemfeed/2023-02-26-how-to-shut-down-after-work.html" /> - <id>https://foo.zone/gemfeed/2023-02-26-how-to-shut-down-after-work.html</id> - <updated>2023-02-26T23:48:01+02:00</updated> - <author> - <name>Paul Buetow aka snonux</name> - <email>paul@dev.buetow.org</email> - </author> - <summary>Do you need help fully discharging from work in the evenings or for the weekend? Shutting down from work won't just improve your work-life balance; it will also significantly improve the quality of your personal life and work. After a restful weekend, you will be much more energized and productive the next working day. So it should not just be in your own, but also your employers' interest that you fully relax and shut down after work. </summary> - <content type="xhtml"> - <div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"> - <h1 style='display: inline' id='how-to-shut-down-after-work'>How to shut down after work</h1><br /> -<br /> -<span class='quote'>Published at 2023-02-26T23:48:01+02:00</span><br /> -<br /> -<span>Do you need help fully discharging from work in the evenings or for the weekend? Shutting down from work won't just improve your work-life balance; it will also significantly improve the quality of your personal life and work. After a restful weekend, you will be much more energized and productive the next working day. So it should not just be in your own, but also your employers' interest that you fully relax and shut down after work. </span><br /> -<br /> -<pre> - |\ "Music should be heard not only with the ears, but also the soul." -|---|--\-----------------------|-----------------------------------------| -| | |\ | |@ |\ | -|---|- |